Racism, sexism, fascism, nationalism, fatism, ageism, childism are not structures although sometimes to those who are victim of the attitudes that spring from them, they can seem to be all pervasive and therefore structural. They are not structures though, they are instead a collection of commonly understood linguistic tools which we can use to express a wish to dominate others in a very through a few choice comments.

But domination is a feature of our lives in so many other ways. Many means of expressing domination are of course not respected. Like rape, murder, fighting and abuse. Others means are accepted and even respected. Respect flows from being the winner at competitive sport, achieving a position from which you can tell others what to do in a business or in government, achieving the kind of beauty which would drive beauty chasing others into a state of obsequy. Power over others! Don't you just love it when everybody wants to know your name, or knowing your name wants to bed you.

But what other way is there of enjoying social relationships other than trying to dominate people. There are two ways of enjoying social relationships. By working with people or by working against them. The difference between good and evil.

Reduce the ways in which you try to dominate people. Do it by working together with them. Forget about trying to be better than people. Forget competitive sport, forget about being good looking, forget about trying to consume more than others so as to feel better about yourself. This doesn't mean you should become Mother Theresa. Taking the approach to life where a feeling of obligation and guilt requires that you bow down to everyone's needs is not only an abdication of any responsibility for yourself but is also a form of self-abuse as you are allowing others' wishes to dominate you. Sometimes the best thing is just to be on your own and do your own thing. But when you come in contact with other people, work with them and not against them.

Most importantly when someone tries to dominate you don't try and dominate back. By attempting to dominate back, you are not standing up for yourself, you are only making the situation worse. Standing up for yourself means standing up for what you believe in, i.e. an end to domination via a focussing on working together, not an attempt to dominate the dominator.

So when someone rapes you don't look for revenge otherwise you become the rapist too. When people fuck with you don't fuck em back. Concentrate, maintain and focus on your spirit inside. Turn their words and actions into wind, let it whistle past your head, let it evanesce amidst the ether that surrounds the only thing worthy of solidity and endurance: your positive consciousness. Don't let anything get in your way of realising the project of equality. If you reciprocate dominance, whether you win or lose you're playing the game of domination and you've lost the wider picture.

So when you're walking out in town and some pissed up Ralph Lauren wearing Neanderthal gives you some shit for not looking like he does, chill…. And at the risk of gaining a black eye and broken jaw tell him that you love him.